At Staten Island University Hospital, we offer services that cover physical, psychiatric and emotional rehabilitation. This includes our bereavement services department.
Grief is an expected response to death. University Hospice offers the following services:
- Informational mailing to you about grief and coping
- Short-term counseling for you and loved ones
- Lending library for you and your children
- Grief support groups that you can regularly attend
- Grief classes held twice yearly (preregistration)
- Annual "Tree of Remembrance" ceremony (in December)
- Bereavement articles: Common reactions
Building a new life
The opportunity that accompanies your loss is as real as the pain, but it is often overlooked. In times of crisis, such as following the death of a loved one, you can begin to learn more about what you are capable of, as well as your vulnerabilities. It is possible to use this information to resolve conflicts you have carried with you and to start building a new life.
Restructuring your life after a loss requires patience, a willingness to be honest with yourself, and the courage to change. One way to begin is to study your talents, resources and options, as well as roadblocks to self-fulfillment. Support groups and counseling can contribute to your self-discovery and needed connection with others.
It is also important to set some attainable goals and develop a plan to accomplish them. These deliberate actions will give you direction and feelings of security, self-esteem and hope. The actual shifting of your energy from the past to the future is a gradual process that is aided by achieving your goals and by letting go of unattainable wants. Your newfound hope will come from choosing what is possible.
What you should know after losing a loved one
The following thoughts may be helpful to you after a painful loss:
- Even though you may feel that part of you is missing, you are a whole person; there may be undeveloped parts of you that can grow.
- Your intensity of grief is related to how much of you was invested in the loved one you lost.
- Your relationship with a person does not end with death, it merely changes.
- Being a friend to others who are sharing in your loss can allow you to pass on what you have learned and turn your grief into creative energy.
- Confronting a death can lead to a re-evaluation and deepening of your faith and spiritual life.
- The best memorial to a loved one is for you to live a full and growing life.
For information about University Hospice Bereavement Program, call (718) 226-6450.